Saturday, March 2, 2013
Five Lessons to Face the World Confidently
Here is a version of my speech at Prasiddhi School on 1 March 2013. I was Chief Guest for the High School Graduation event there. The school is truly unique in that it seemed to have escaped the commercial trappings of running a business. Student teacher bonding was special and almost gave glimpses of what the Gurukul system would have been like.
Graduation or Commencement day is very special for all parties involved. Parents begin to see some returns on the investment they have made. Teachers see the fruit of their labour moving on in life. And for the students – you have to now step into a large and somewhat unknown world. And this needs some preparation. Some of this preparation comes from listening to people who have made mistakes. And I have made plenty.
First lesson is that of ‘Failure – knowing that we will fail, sometimes’
Even the greatest fail. We all know of Sachin Tendulkar as the greatest batsman ever and have only known him as a hero. We all have many stories about how he has played so well over the last 25 years. My favourite story about Sachin is from his school days when he was just as old as you or maybe younger.
Sachin was widely expected to be declared the best batsman in
cricket but missed
out. His name was not up on the club board and he felt very dejected and
disheartened. A few days later he received a letter which said – please check
the board again for the years 1967 or so and you will find a name missing and
that name hasn’t done badly in life. The letter was signed by Sunil Gavaskar. Mumbai
You can be dejected but you should not lose hope. Imagine what the world would have missed had Tendulkar remained dejected?
The second lesson is of ‘Tolerance – Knowing that it takes all kinds to make this world’.
Tolerance and Acceptance are important virtues of successful people. You will meet many people that you will probably not enjoy working with. Please remember we unknowingly radiate our feelings about others. When you don’t like others, chances are they also don’t like you. We all have our shortcomings and are not God’s gift to mankind. The more you learn to accept people of other kind and learn to work with them, the more your chances of success. Of course, you have to be wise enough to know which people need to be completely avoided. There are some…but very very few.
Many years ago I was meeting a client with a colleague of mine. The client was very grumpy and didn’t talk much. I did not like the discussion and the person as well. Later on my colleague told me that this client felt I was very arrogant and not interested in his business!
After some amends this potential client invited us to see his factory. During the car drive the discussion moved to family and parenting and I saw this client go quiet. I asked him why and he said – “I have lost my wife and only son two months back to an illness”.
Imagine our shock. Here, I was thinking this person was grumpy, while in reality he was recovering from a huge loss. We must remember that people behave in a certain manner because of several things that are happening to them. Don’t judge unless you have some context.
The third lesson is about ‘Success – There is no such thing as an overnight success.’
Many successes appear to be overnight successes. Please remember they are just that – appear to be but not actual. Everything takes some talent and a lot of hardwork. I would like to share with you a story about Bill Gates. Most of us like to quote how Bill Gates is a college drop out etc and still made it big. This is not how he himself remembers it though. He worked hard at programming to develop his skills. He spent more time coding than doing anything else when other children were busy playing or sleeping.
Bill Gates had his college computer lab close to his house and used to sneak in at night and program all night to return home early morning. He did this for years before making it big with writing the first DOS. Please remember, nothing is overnight. It is years of hard work that succeeds.
Malcolm Gladwell has set a 10,000 hr rule for absolute mastery in one area – at 4 hrs a day this is about 10 yrs!
The fourth lesson is of ‘Responsibility – we are responsible for our actions’.
We can choose our response. Victor Frankl is the most amazing story you will ever read. Victor Frankl was a victim of Nazi Holocaust and lost his entire family during their detention in the torture camps run by Nazi. But he chose his response and developed a new field in Psychology called Logotherapy and continued to teach after escaping from the camps. I draw a lot of inspiration from his quote -